By Fredrica Syren:
One of my least favorite phases of kids’ development is the “why” phase. My youngest Liam just started it; I had totally forgotten how tiring it could be. Everything I say to him is followed by “Why?” I have learned that it’s important to answer the question as honestly as possible and without frustration. Yeah, right!!! I try, but — really — sometimes there is no end to his asking me why.
Me: “We have to pick up your sister and brother.”
Noah: “Why?”
Me: “Because we don’t want to leave them in school.”
Noah: “Why?”
Me: “Because they are your siblings we have a responsibility to get them.”
Noah: “Why?”
Me: “Because we love them.”
Noah: “Why?”
Me: “Because they are my kids.”
Noah: “Why?”
Me: “Because Mom and Dad really wanted children.”
Noah: “Why?”
Me: “We love each other and want to be a family.”
Noah: ”Why?”
Me: “Because most humans like to grow a family. It’s in their DNA.”
Noah: “Why?”
Me: “Well 200,000 years ago, the first human …”
Sigh … You get the idea.
Around the age of 3 or 4, kids will start asking lots of questions and more questions. And our answers will be followed by … yup, you’re right, more questions! They just never seem to be satisfied. Although it might be annoying at times, asking questions is a normal developmental milestone and should be celebrated. I think it’s okay to tell your child that you don’t know at times, and maybe even to look up answers and learn together. This is just a peak at children’s curiosity☺