Are Moms Allowed To Enjoy Being Alone?

Nov, 14, 2014

By Fredrica Syren:

A very good friend of mine is going overseas on a business trip for a week and will leave her two small children for the very first time since they were born. First I was excited that she gets to visit a foreign country, but then I felt her pain over leaving her kids for a week. They will be with their very capable dad so they will be fine, but I’m sure they will miss Mom terribly.

MotherhoodI saw how stressed she was but when I told her to please enjoy sleeping, eating and going to the bathroom in peace. I could see a glimmer of excitement … followed by guilt.

As moms, it’s so hard to leave our kids behind for overnights trips. We always feel so guilty. I know I have yet to leave my kids to go away, and the few times I have been home alone for an hour I have so enjoyed doing things without them. I love how I can take a shower without someone crying or talking to me. I love eating slowly and really enjoy hot food. I enjoy taking a nap. (It does not happen very often!) But when I even consider leaving them I do feel guilty. It’s sad because we should never feel guilty to want some alone time or even adult time without them. We’re just human, and recharging our battery to be a happy mom should never be wrong.

I surely hope my friend relishes every moment alone and takes advantage of it to the fullest. I know she is a great mom; her homecoming will be so sweet.

Fredrika Syren

Fredrika Syren is an environmental activist and writer. In 2016, she founded the website Green-Mom.com where she shared her family’s journey of living zero waste. She lives in San Diego, California with her husband James and their children Bella, Noah, and Liam. Fredrika and her family were recently featured in the documentary Zero Time to Waste. Fredrika is also the author of Zero Waste for Families - A Practical Guidebook (which you can buy on this site)

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